Breaking up "The Breakup"!

We're in our 20's! Our 20's is not the time to keep yourself unhappy and droopy and lifeless and all the synonyms associated with it! Though many of us, do just that! And hence I came up with this policy a while back after being at the unhappy and droopy and lifeless end for a longer while - "Breakup's are hard! But Breakup's are good!" (It's easy to say, but once done you realise it was for the good!)

If you have figured that you can not live with a particular person for even a few hours a day, then it's always better that you do the right thing of breaking up then and there rather then causing unwanted stress and tension to yourself later. If you can't be happy with someone, giving up on your happiness for someone how ever much you thought you loved them is not feasible. We are still young! I realised this after a while and I also realise that I was young enough not to form that policy earlier on in my life. I was afraid of consequences, but now I no longer am! I feel free though my past has still not settled itself down, it's still rolling in the dirt. It has not come to a stand still! 

So going by Breakup's I'm going to sort the 3 Major different types of breakup's there could possibly be (ie, Once it is finalised that the break up is going to be done) - 

1. A no sign Break up

2. A one minute Break up

3. An hour long Break up

And how the various recipients take it is even wonderful. They could be classified under 2 Categories - 

1. The Good Way

2. The Bad Way

Let's start with the type of Break up -

1. A no sign Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes one end of the spectrum and just walks out of your life one fine day without any warning.

2. A one minute Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes the mediocre path and just informs you that they are breaking up with you for so and so reason.

3. An hour long Break up - When the guy/ Girl takes the other end of the spectrum and explains why the relationship won't work or even just yells at the other explaining or even cries to the other explaining - But takes time to explain that it just won't work.

Each of those relationships is luckier than the other because if a person takes time off to explain to you every single thing, it would imply there was a bit of respect and sanity left for the other between the two of you'll as individuals not as a couple. 

But that would again depend on the way the recipient reciprocated as I stated previously -

1. The Good Way - The individuals understand the other's point of view and even though they try real hard to fight for it, they fail at saving the relationship. It's one thing to try and save a ship before it can hit the iceberg and it's another to try and save a ship after it has hit the ice berg. And most of the times, Breakup's happen after it has hit the iceberg and that is when the thinking has all been done with. But these good souls decide to take it as their fate and some decide to keep their ex's as their friends and some decide to stay away without causing the other any harm. Because after all, they were once "In Love". 

2. The Bad - The individuals in this act like they are understanding the reasons as to why it didn't work out but that is far from reality, they yell it out to the whole world. Not like the entire world was really bothered but there are a few crazy fanatics among them who add oil to the burning fire and make it even worse. There is threatening and more threatening from one end. There's a lot of bitching about the person who called for the break up. The recipient here loves to wallow in self pity and groups his and her friends and attacks them where their heart strings would match a tune. The AND highlighted is another sign of the need for attention and self pity. And once everything dies down, All the bitching is done. We think it's over but better yet, that was just the silence before the storm!

They hack through your little personal life through modes of Social Networking sites and the likes and somehow create another story! The Bad Guys - they never rest. They keep thinking of ways to ruin life for them and for others. 

What I have really never understood is that if you ever was in a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them. If this is a simple theorem used for falling in love, why can't the corollary exist? "If you ever ended a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them." Because you thought it would be good for the both of you'll to be happy rather than just one.    

Free Spirit!

Yes, I am 23! My life seems to be running at full speed without a break. There is now a monotony to life. The monotony brings about a calm which no one would have guessed it would. And then it's struck by a storm. (Gosh, I sound monotonous)

Little did I realise that I wasn't 50 to enjoy the monotony of life! And when it struck me I was half way through my race to become 24! Being the enthusiast I am, I was worried to know I could be happy with such a life. I always had my hands filled with work - with my little to do lists all over my room to that sense of accomplishment I feel when I've done something, with creating something new, with getting my hands dirty with the gooey chocolate from the chocolate cake I would have wanted to bake, to tapping out the keys on my laptop to write about something which struck me, to meeting friends and family, to doing absolutely nothing but just thinking at times! I was always busy.

And then I realised I stopped doing things I liked. I had stopped being spontaneous! Could I blame this on my age? That's the most convenient and clichéd reason ever. I have learnt time and again that if there is anyone or anything to blame for anything in your life - It is you and only you! I had let people walk over my parade, people who seemed worth it. But everything seems worth it when it's gift wrapped.

All that glitters ain't gold - I've heard this time and again from a very young age and only now did it strike me (with a little nudging which happened from external forces) that I fell for the glitter! What I didn't realise was that the non - glittered life seemed so much more real, so much more fun, so much more full of being the real me! People do grumble that I have become averse to my past and I've become a more strong minded person. Emotions do not get to me often but it does a lot of times but not as before. I remain the same person I was in matter of the qualities I had minus the fact that I allow anyone and everyone to rain on my parade.


It was indeed time for that!

Holidays - It made me realise the life I led minus the glitter. It seemed wonderful still. It seemed beautiful. It made me happy, I didn't have these added strings bogging me down. And on thinking over it I realised that I was always leading a life which was carefree, which seemed so free spirited and I Loved it! I loved it so much that I did feel like celebrating by going on a trip to the Himalayas. And that's when God smirks and says - "That's enough, Child! You're still getting your lazy mass of flesh and bones to office!"

The Clashes of the Sexes!

This was a survey done in order to give us something to laugh at, something to think about which was a far cry from the monotonous work in office.

Spokesperson asked - Why do Guys flirt with Girls?

Guy "A" - It is because their "Raging Hormones go crazy" or "They want to score"

Guy "B" - To make a girl feel nice. (This came from a guy who has never made a girl feel nice)

Guy "A" - Fine, If you really want to make her feel nice - "Compliment her" and not try to get in her pants!

Guy "B" remains oblivious to the reply made by Guy "A".

Guy "A" continues - The best reason why guys flirt is Time Pass

Spokesperson continues her quest.

Spokesperson asks Guy "C" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Guy "C" - (Smirks at the question and responds) That's simple, They can't flirt with guys!

Spokesperson stands flabbergasted!

Spokesperson still continues her quest.

Spokesperson asks Guy "D" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Guy "D" - For Sex!

Spokesperson - (to herself)  Whoa! Did I want to hear that?

Guy "D" - (continues his spree grinning) To make a girl feel on the top of the world!

Spokesperson seems she needs a break from the male gender and goes on to ask her female counterparts.

Spokesperson to Girl "A" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "A" - To satisfy their ego. To know that they have options and to want to explore more than what they have! To show off and sometimes it can be for more than just "talking"!

Spokesperson to Girl "A" - You are on a roll, Girl!

Girl "A" grins.

Spokesperson carries on her quest with Girl "A" by her side.

Girl "A" to Girl "B" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "B" - Its upto an individual, if he or she is happy being with the opposite sex around him or her in a very casual way then they flirt!

Girl "A" disagrees and says - If they want to be casual, they can as well speak normally! Why flirt?

Spokesperson nods her head in agreement.

Spokesperson carries on her quest.

Spokesperson to Girl "C" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "C" - To impress girls, just for time pass or maybe even for the reason that they like them and want to take the relationship forward.Depends on the guy who is flirting.. Mostly guys do it to kill time!

Spokesperson ends the survey as she has been enlightened enough that she can't form her own opinions! Her mind seems blank!

Spokesperson decides to conclude the entire survey.

Girl "A" saves the Spokesperson some energy and concludes - The conclusion of this survey is simple: Guys are mad, confused creatures who don't know what they only want! How can you call them the "Man of the house" huh? Huh? :-*

Guy "A" butts in and adds - This coming from a species who cant decide what shoes to buy, is full of irony :P

Spokesperson is flabbergasted yet again!

22 going on 23!

Here I am wondering how wonderful the journey has been these past 23 years! God's mercy has just seeped in the most unknown forms into my life and it has turned out to be just perfect (I, touch wood - something which I've learnt over the years - Apparently, On touching wood the wood sprites get pleased and prevent any ill luck that could come from a favourable observation just made!). But then again I would love to divulge more details on the "Touch Wood" phrase!

Blessings showered on me - Infinite! (Every single moment I have lived till date is a blessing) Lessons learnt innumerous! People met - Too many! Friends made - Not too many! (I'm choosy when it comes to making friends, they have to go through the "Fineness test"!) Something which I have learnt over the years as well - To be wary! I really don't know who said this but I'm rephrasing the quote to match me now - "I'm 18 with 4 years of experience!"

Getting back to the main point as to why I started writing this post! This post has been more of a ritual every year! This year unlike all the previous years, I officially feel OLD! It's been an amazing journey so far, blah, blah and more blah! I'm grateful to a number of people whose been in my life, walked out of it and made it slightly more peaceful and to some extent less entertaining! But then again, everything happens for a reason and this is something that I have learnt over the years and have abided by it! I have also learnt that people do not have to like you all the time, if they hate you (though it is a pretty strong word) or rather dislike you - "Give a damn"! The very reason they dislike you is proof that you are Human! 

I've donned so many roles in the past 22 years and continue to don the same and they will forever remain very close to me - I've been the little baby everyone was a little envious of, I've been the Apple of my Grandfather's eye, I am a Daughter, I am Daddy's Little Princess, I am a Sister, I've been a doting Grand Daughter, I am a Niece, I've been an awesome "Smallest" Cousin (In every context), I am an Aunt, I've been a Classmate, I've been a Student, I've been and still am a Teacher ( In a 100 different Subjects - I've been a Teacher to myself as well, a million times!), I've been and still am a constant learner (Yes, I am exaggerating a bit here - Come on! Who doesn't like the limelight on them for a while!) I am a Friend, I am a Soul Sister, I am a Worry Bin (I know I do not have copyright to use the Worry Bin but that status has been granted to me so I'm just boasting!), I've been a Shoulder to Cry on, I've been the World's Worst and Best Support to my family, (Yes, it is indeed a World of Contradictions I live in), I've become an Engineer, I am a Professional (At work <- Oh Yes, I work> and otherwise too), I've been the reason for many a Smiles and many a Tears (Not too many tears though or rather I wouldn't be too sure of), I've been a Lover (I've loved too many things in Life - The zest and the love for living life being the biggest!), I've donned all these and hopefully much more in the years to come!

To live life spontaneously is one of the best lessons of my life! It is amazing when you just let go of your life for just that little bit and enjoy the perks of letting go as long as you can bring yourself back to one piece! And not split into a Hundred Different Pieces! Some of the lessons (actually, they can't be termed as lessons) that I have learnt from being spontaneous is that you stop giving a damn about what the entire world thinks! You do it cause it makes YOU happy!

I am a person of contradictions, I have a loving, caring and naive heart which gets hurt too often though my mind remains steadfast and ever supportive in the most unlikeliest of ways! My Mind and Heart are the 2 contradictory factors in my very being! But I love them both alike cause I'd never live life with the "Dramatic Flair" people say I have otherwise!

I've had the best of every possible world there could be out there! (Well, almost every possible world out there!) I've had fairy tales and I've had nightmares!

I look around and I smile, I am Blessed!

So here's a toast to me, for Happy Happy Ever Ever After!

(I close my eyes, it is the end of my post! Not the end of my life, I'm just beginning to live!)

The Clashes of the Sexes!

I was speaking to a friend recently and he came up with this slightly "Not Logical" crap of his (Which is not anything new), but it did catch my attention.

He said that supposing this was a person's head and supposing inside that person's head there is a brain. The size of that would be something around this (as shown below). Smaller than the person's face as it needs to be inside their head and not outside.

And that normal person would think only about so much with his brain 

Considering the so much meant nothing!

Then he started comparing it with me!

 

He said that my mind works forever.

It doesn't take a break what so ever! 

Comparing me to a nervous wreck!

 

 

But I didn't budge! It was his silliness at it's peak! And after a while I realized that he had over-thought a bit to come up with his over exaggeration! 

Which just proves the first point of my post - "MEN OVER THINK MORE THAN WOMEN!"

Just as I came to the above conclusion, I had to stop and think and realised that it could not be and while doing some research on the same, I came across a really funny post which proves that - "WOMEN MAY OVERTHINK MORE AS COMPARED TO MEN!"

That led me to think of this post! 

It's obvious that men and women really don't think alike! Hence the book "Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus". 

Considering him as the man (though he's more of an Alien) and me as the woman, I realized that what most women want are similar and what most men want are again similar! Yet again, to every rule there is an exception - Hence, the usage of the term - "MOST".

The first basic difference between men and women are that - Women have emotion and Men lack emotion!

And when Men have emotion - they have an overdose of it that even women can not handle it! And when a woman can't handle it, you know that the world is not going in the right direction!

The second basic difference between men and women are that - Women are the one's who bring Men down to the level where they need to be and when a Woman over power's a Man in bragging, we know yet again the world is not going in the right direction!

And that's the most we can come upto!

These images of the "Male" and the "Female" brain totally sum up my entire post! 

I love the footnotes at the bottom of the brain for both the female as well as the male! 

India, Don't put me down!

Anything in the below post is my opinion and solely my opinion.

I am a 22 year old working professional but I am also a Grand Daughter, a Daughter, a Sister, a Niece, a Cousin, an Aunt, a Friend and most importantly a GIRL! A girl who is scared to take a step without the fear of being a victim to the atrocities we have seen over the past one month because she knows she is on her own and that if she can not fight for her own life, NO ONE WILL.

The month of December had a lot of people speaking up for themselves. Some of them standing up for themselves and fighting for justice and some of them speaking up utter crap!

December 16th could easily be the day that I felt India awoke from it's hibernation - The day which brought utter shame to India when a 23 year old girl was Gang Raped! The day which shook me out of my wits. The day which made me afraid of India - The country I was born and brought up in.

After 13 long days of struggling to live, The 23-year-old physiotherapy student died succumbing to her injuries after being brutally beaten up and raped by six drunken men in a private bus which was driven around south Delhi localities on the night of December 16th 2012. Today, being the tragic end of that 23 year old girl's life who awakened India.

What can we infer from this? That girls are not allowed to roam around the streets of their own country without the fear of being raped, running in their minds the entire time? What were the safe keepers of our country doing? If their job isn't to keep the country's citizens safe then what is their job? 100 hours after the gang rape, there was a laud for them when they caught just 5 of the 6 Rapists.Yes, they did a good job but only after the girl was brutally raped. Here are a few News clippings which show us how lightly the case was being taken. Hardly days after that gruesome rape, there was another rape in Gujrat! What is the signal we are trying to give people here? Get another country to live in, cause you may just get Gang Raped in India.

What gets even more annoying is the fact that Cops have been extremely biased to Rape victims. They have slapped around sexist remarks questioning the character of the victims! And to top it, Cops from the state of Gujrat are willing to offer a compensatory amount to the rape victim's family! Why? What are they trying to do? Are they trying to cover up something? Will the girl ever be able to lead a normal life without listening to all the snide remarks passed about her even though her family is given a compensation? The Girl would never be able to lead a normal life! But, Men can resume their life just where they stopped it before the rape. The reason it boils down to is the simple fact that we live in a Patriarchal society. How come only women's character's are questioned, how come no one ever question's a man's character? Why are we as little girls always told to dress up properly, not to walk around alone in unknown places? Why can't anyone teach men to respect women and behave themselves? If only Boys were taught at a young age! 

If the same were to happen to anyone from a Politician's family or a well known personality' family, would it have been taken with the same gusto or even more? Why the bias? We are after all Indian citizens and we all have the same rights.

The Women who were raped - They were/ are Victims. The definition of a victim just in, case you'll forgot is a person who suffers from a destructive or an injurious action/ a person who is deceived or cheated. It doesn't stop with the cops, the Politicians drunken with power have made outrageously sexist remarks too. Right from WB minister Anisur Rahman's remarks to the President's son - Abhijit Mukherjee with his dented and painted comment to the TMC Leader Kakoli Ghosh's with her remark about the Park Street Rape victim. Who are they to make such comments? When did India become so unreliable? Why must we take in insults made by our fellow country men - by the people we look up to? It is one thing to go to other countries and listen to a few nasty racist remarks but to listen to a few in one's own country from Leaders degrades the country as a whole.

What the Police have to do, Charge the accused! Will it do justice for the victim by just slapping murder charges against the accused? Will that make it safer for me to walk in my city with my head held up high? Of course NOT! The Rapists have to be charged under the IPC - That was foreseen, they have to be. But what I would demand is that the Rapists must be hanged to death in front of the people of India! And the Minor must be given the same punishment! Because everyone can differentiate what is Right and what is Wrong at a very young age! And for him to plead for justice because he is a minor is unacceptable. Why can we just not have Capital Punishment for Rape? Are India's laws too old that it can't be bent? Isn't India bothered about the welfare of it's women citizens? If those men could not value a girl's life, why must we value their lives? I was always taught to "Live and Let Live", if people can't follow that simple principle, who gives them the right to live?  

Not a day passed by without me praying for that girl's speedy recovery and justice to her and the many oppressed and of course, the fact that India would open up and do something about it. Rather than let it pass with the blink of an eye. This as a matter of fact opened my eyes to so many things India has so beautifully hidden. But I wish I didn't have to have my eyes opened when a girl was so brutally raped. How come it took us this one Girl's life to bring out the evils in Society, She wouldn't have been a victim if only the evil had been cut at the nib. She did bring out the anger to fight in each and every girl, every woman. My heart goes out to her parents as they are left with nothing but memories. Your daughter's will to fight is an inspiration to many. 

The Leaders and The Police of our country have proved their mettle. Isn't it high time we follow what we learnt when we were small under the subject "Civics"? The fact that India is a Democratic country - For the People, By the People and Of the People!

I hope reforms are made For the People (Safeguarding of every citizen), By the People (in Power) and Of the People.

Mute Spectators!!

"Words were not given to man in order to conceal his thoughts"

All opinions expressed in this post are solely mine. They are not to disregard any person, religion or country. It is solely a post which serves as an outlet to a 20+ working professional.

At a time like this, every single girl out there is scared to express their views. The last time I checked India was a free country and every Indian citizen was given the Freedom of Expression. But after what happened to those 2 girls in Mumbai. Are we really assured of the same?

Just in case your unsure about what i'm talking about, Click here!

It got me wondering whether we really lived in a free country. What shocked me was the audacity with which the safe keepers of our country actually treated those girls. And what shocks me even more is that certain people really supported the actions of the people who safeguards our country. After reading the comments on that particular news post, I lost every ounce of hope I had in my generation. But yet again there are exceptions to every rule! At times I wonder why we remain the Mute spectators we are, but I guess old habits die hard. Mute spectators we were and forever will remain. Every cell in my body just keeps yelling out - "Stop, There is nothing more to write!" I personally have lost my interest after reading a few comments and have decide to resume my life.

And before continuing on, I would love to share this little piece from Calvin and Hobbes-

Calvin: Isn’t it strange that evolution would give us a sense of humour? When you think about it, it’s weird that we have a physiological response to absurdity. We laugh at nonsense. We like it. We think it’s funny. Don’t you think it’s odd that we appreciate absurdity? Why would we develop that way? How does it benefit us?

Hobbes: I suppose if we couldn’t laugh at things that don’t make sense, we couldn’t react to a lot of life.

Calvin: (after a long pause) I can’t tell if that’s funny or really scary.

The above was something similar to the way I felt after I read the comments on that news post. Simply stated, I as a girl would be scared to get back home from work every night if this is the case. If the people who are meant to protect us don't, then who does. Everyone has lived by the policy to each his own and I guess that implies to every sphere of life - Right from safeguarding ourselves to standing up for ourselves.

And this comes back to the basic philosophy - "When all else fails, Family prevails!"

Peace in the midst of "Traffic"

Traffic everywhere is a nuisance. It's hectic, tiresome and boring. Only till recently, for me! It was a Saturday, a day I sit with my Mother and go to see my Grandmother. I have always been on the Non - Violent, Peaceful side while not driving or riding, which implies I am the exact opposite when I'm driving or even riding for that matter. I think my entire family has that streak only when they are riding or driving. hile we're not we are more peaceful than Saints. The glow just shows in our faces. (Yes, I am a very sarcastic person at times!)

While I'm with my mother we talk about almost everything. I do most of the talking, I could easily shut a person for a day. But this one day, I was silent in my own world when I saw some wonderful sights. In the midst of all the traffic, the hurrying and scurrying, the sights I saw were something which fascinated me. Something which could easily take the boredom of driving or even riding. If only we had the time to stop and stare.

Amid-st the chaos - I saw this very old couple, singing joyfully, so content with themselves. The joy I have seen when my Grandfather was still alive in my Grandmother's eyes. Old people have this effect on me, which other's don't. An effect of tenderness and heart melting warmth, love and care.

I saw a newly wedded couple looking into each other's eyes and smiling. I saw a Baby Girl laugh out loud in between her parents. The peace was not only with us "Homo Sapiens", it very much existed with the Animal Kingdom (Including the birds) - I saw a dog sleep peacefully on one corner of the road below the shade of a tree and on that tree I heard a bird sing.

I reached my Grandmother's house after all the sights I saw and I started to speaking to my Grandmother. When all of a sudden she stops me and says that bird's calling out to you and asking you, "Hello! How are you?" It took sometime for me to realize there was a bird sitting on a tree coo-ing away to glory. It did take time for my ears to shut out the noise of the traffic and hear the little bird.

Have we grown so busy that we don't notice this at all? Do we have that many anxieties? It's weird at times that the people you least expect to hear it from tell you something which blows your mind away. This reminded me of a poem I once recited in school by William Henry Davies. It goes along the following lines-

What is this life if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs

And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,

Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,

Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,

And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can

Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

And that's what we do!

"Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away."

This is a dialogue from the movie Hitch. 

My blog is about People! People I know, People Iv just seen, People I don't know and Me! 

This post is dedicated to my friends, something I have never done before but that's what I live for - Doing something different. Monotony kills me! 

Sonia D and Tina E! What can I say? 4 years of a mix of emotions and at the end it seemed all worth it. How did we ever manage finding each other? Becoming friends? Was it the "Same Height" factor? Cause 3 of us are so very different. And I wouldn't regret a moment we spent together. Be it fighting and not talking for days even though we sat on the same bench day after day. Or be it gossiping, crying, just being happy or pulling each others leg or even just being ourselves. The plans we've made - Endless! The plans executed - A Few! But the joy through it all.. Amazing! I wouldn't have survived Engineering without you'll both constantly making it harder and easier for me! The constant bickering, the constant hatred towards a few, the crushes, the Pairing up. The long walks we've had and the fact that we never got tired. The times our mouths would never shut. They were all so much fun! It's hard to pin point events in our lives because there are so many! And if they were pinpointed it would  be a "Comparison". And that would weaken the importance of each moment.

That quote from Hitch caught my attention - 
But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. - Something we've always done when we were sad and gloomy and even sleepy! 
If you must steal, steal away from bad company. - Something we've done unknowingly, but when we look back we realized everything shaped out for the good.
If you must cheat, cheat death.- The stunts we've done and the times through which God has just taken us through. 
And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away. - And this we've always done! Though I think I promised myself never to take you'll both ever again within 100 meters of a Pub. 

3 Small Girls - We grew up just fine. Promising to support each other through good times and bad once we were done with engineering. The emotions we brought out from each other. College's done! We've grown up, haven't we? We've become more bolder, naughtier than ever before and of course Better, Humane Human Beings! 

That One Step!

Why does everything have to be so complicated in life? Maybe Life was always complicated but I never thought in such a complicated manner! It was a striking statement at work today which made a huge difference to my evening - "TRUST NO ONE!". Seriously? Why not?
Competition existed ever since we were in Preparatory. How come we just blindly trusted people and became friends? When did life complicate itself so much to thrown that statement at me. I do take time to make friends but when I do, It's sticking with them through good times and bad.
Going for a "Team building" outing from work, made each one of us realize the importance of trust! Being blind folded and made to walk a rope which was 4 feet off the ground with just 2 of your team mates holding you is quite a feat without blindly trusting your team mates to take you through. Competition existed till I passed out of Engineering. Some came first while others didn't. The bottom line was - We didn't work hard enough!
When did Trust become such a big issue? It is a big one! But not trusting anyone?! That's just too big an issue to be answered by me. Imagine a world where no one trusted anyone, it would be sadistic! It would be chaotic! It just wouldn't be nice!
How wonderful it would be if we all just took that one step, laid down all our fears and just became friends minus the back biting and the Office gossip, we are so used to!
All it takes is one tiny step! That tiny step a baby takes. Minus the fear and distrust because they are all  inbuilt.

Life in all it's Simplicity after the storm!

Some of the little joys we enjoyed as kids were just thinking that being together depended solely on 2 people! Just the "You" and the "Me". Little did we even know about that cruel thing or even not so cruel thing called Fate. And then we grow a little older and we realize that things just do not go our way! And that's when we decided to name that particular event in our life as Fate!



Those are the dreaded times we wish Pandora had never opened that dreaded box which we know so popularly as "Pandoras Box". That box which brought out pain, suffering and all the evils life had! It's easier to believe in mythology at times and blame it on that one person. Not once thinking whether we were right!



And sometimes Life just goes on! Even if you are broken into a 100 different pieces it just goes on!
For Calvin, it's so much more easier to confide in his toy tiger Hobbes because Hobbes would never hurt Calvin! And sometimes it's all the more easier to stay away and avoid getting hurt. And then we think again!
It's always so easy watching out for what's ahead of us that we fail to enjoy the moment.

We try to avoid the fact that we were really offended and really hurt. Who are we fooling?




Words are the only thing which have the power to slice and seer the heart, sometimes even worse than an arrow.


And when the hurt of the rudeness somehow manages to find it's way back to the giver. The receiver of the rudeness has that smug which says, "Ha! He actually isn't that stone hearted!" but then we refuse to let go of the event because we believe that some people deserve "A Swift kick in the butt"


And then we wonder





And then we realize we couldn't ask for anything better. Because deep inside each of our hearts, we know whether we like it or not, "We have to, are going to be and forever will be there for each other!"



Because they are those people we've known forever, who know us in a way that other people don't, because they have seen you change and most importantly let you change!

What's the big deal about it?

“Life, weddings, relationships, road trips, gardening, making out, haircuts: few of the fun things in life which always go as expected.” 

The few things which interest us are so few but yet they have the magnanimity to make up for everything which do not interest us. One of the very few things which has always interested me was weddings and they will continue to intrigue me.

I, like every other girl have my perception of my dream wedding. Every girl wants their wedding to be just perfect. It is so easy to say it out loud to the world but when it comes to implementing it, like anything else in the world it is sometimes a tedious task. I have two wonderful sisters and they have had their perceptions on the perfect wedding. I was too small to help them out in the tiny details but I’m pretty sure I could avoid on all the errors they made after life's too short to learn from your own mistakes only!

This blog is dedicated to those little things which make us happy and glow on that special day. I belong to a Syrian Christian family and Marriages here is a very important event! it is not the event where 2 people have decided to live with each other the rest of their lives it is also the marriage of 2 families. Every girl has her dream wedding. So do I! I want a White wedding with only 125 guests invited. (The number will change for all it’s worth!) But it’s a girl’s dream and who is anyone to snatch it away from her? After all, the Bride is the showstopper of the day! The princess whose getting married. And the parents of the Bride would have it no other way!

A White Wedding is hard to explain but a picture can always speak a thousand words.

OR something like the one I have posted before...

It is obviously going to be an arduous task to find takers for my idea but not if I actually worked on it?

Why would I want someone to plan my wedding when everything, every minutest detail is in my head?

So here I am taking it as a task to find the different themes I could enjoy, starting with the White wedding theme!

Appacha!

It's been over a decade and I still miss you terribly. A lot of things would have been different if only you were here with me. But you've taught me so much in such a little time. It's hard to keep your legacy alive but I keep trying every single day. You were my first best friend, my first story teller, my first mentor and guide, my first protector. You formed a lot of my first's. You were my Super Hero!
I know you look from above and I can feel you pushing me on when things go wrong and I just do not want to carry on. I know you still beam proudly when I have accomplished something. You keep reminding me of all the simple things in life - Giving a smile to someone when the whole world is crumbling around you, cause you never know what that smile could do. Giving the little you have to the one who needs it more than you. To Forgive and Forget all the wrong done to you, however hard it may sound at first. The one way talks I have with you and your reply being a miracle. I know at times I sound kiddish but these are the little things which push me on in life.
After all, I have the rights to act kiddish cause I was your favorite and you were always and will always be my favorite. I love you Appacha!

A Walk with Her!

He seemed like the perfect guy minus the adjectives which she had for him plus the few flaws. She thought to herself, If giving him a chance would make her happy then why not do something which would make herself happy? Irrespective of the fact that she would be hurt in the long run! No one wants to get hurt not when they already know what it feels like and she was no exception to the rule. Maybe as her friends said she was just grieving over the possible outcomes in the future and just not giving her present a chance! After all, he did make her happy! Wasn't that all that mattered? Why did he seem to matter? Why did she feel the need to share everything with him? Why did she feel the need to be with him. She had a beautiful present, a wonderful future or so she thinks. He just came and threw everything out of perspective for her. She wanted to think with her heart but thought it best to think with her mind. She wishes that everything was not that tough. She wishes everything was a bed of roses minus the thorns. If only wishes were like airplanes in the night sky! 

A Walk with Her!

Have you ever fallen in love the "Head over Heels" manner with someone? It's difficult to explain the feeling until we really do experience it. For each one of us it's different. For her it was too. She found her's to be extremely weird. She always knew the heel of Achiles was her heart. But this time her mind was seriously not functioning properly. All she knew was that little things would always continue to make her happy, be it listening to someone share what they did and did not do during the entire course of the day even though it was only 9 in the morning. Smiling at herself realising the person did expect her to listen and reciprocate. And grinning realising someone was not giving her space to talk and that she did not mind it one bit. "How weird?" was all that could cross her mind. She wondered whether it was just another easy fling for him or just another conquest he could add to his hat a few years down the lane or maybe he was interested in her girlfriends or maybe just maybe he was interested in just her. The But's and the Maybe's and the If's and the Um's filled up her mind. She knew she was nearing the end of the cliff. And she also realised if she fell off the cliff which she most probably would, she would never know if he would be there to catch her at the bottom.
Life's so unpredictable. But it seems fun till the Hurt-a-thon begins.  

Weirdness!

I've been an introvert most of my life. It's more of a trying to be wary type of introvert. And to get some of the nicest people and to befriend them in just 17 days is not a feat. It's the fact that we became close to the point that it hurt to know that we may never see the likes of each other ever again. Whoever thought 17 days of being together would culminate in this. The names we formed for each other, the way we pulled each other's legs. The new form's of communication we developed- the incomplete sentences and the completion of the incomplete sentences. The way we understood each other, the bond we formed. Nothing seems to even come close to the fact that all these things actually happen in the corporate world. Or maybe, just maybe all of us as people were really nice at heart. It's become something we can't live without yet something we must learn to live without. If 17 days were so much fun, I wonder if each of us had not switched into our respective processes whether we would have become more close minus the fight for the fittest or we would have grown farther apart plus the fight for the fittest. And just as if to prove that we were all meant to be together, all the processes now run under one Tech Park. It's funnily weird, how random things in Life can make a big difference to the small things which run our lives each day.

A Walk with Her!

Has it ever just taken a second to turn something around. Probably a cover up for a lie, something which would brighten up someone's day? It was the same with her. It took her more than a few seconds to trust this person and it takes every alternate second to doubt the person. If only she could form a stable opinion. Could she ever? Would she ever? Her mind always thought in the sanest possible way but her heart. It was always her "Heel of Achiles" and forever would be.
She hated this person from the very core of her heart. But something strummed on her heart and it echoed out saying, "Let go and You will never know!" She didn't know when she did let go but her mind had already started losing the battle. And she really doesn't know! She wonders whether she can hold on. It is evident somethings make her happy and she can't stop talking about it. But it scares her no end to know that she would be proved totally wrong. Would she be proved wrong all over again?
The flutter is obvious, the skip of a heart beat is even more obvious, the glow is the most obvious! She's used to getting hurt by now but does she want to get hurt again. Would she be able to take it all over again? Does she want to give it a try all over again? Oh Boy, aren't we in for a hell lot of fun?

GUMPTION!!

Looking at Susan Boyle on Britain's Got Talent. I never followed that season. And when I saw a video of her on the show with a wonderful video title. I in a very cynical mind frame, clicked on the video to check what it was all about. I saw her walk across the stage to face the judges. The judges at their pessimistic best. The usual question of what she wanted to be at this age. Susan Boyle without a stammer says a professional singer. Well, her voice wasn't very professional singer type and I wondered what she was thinking. And when she began singing I realised she was thinking her dream. She was mindblowing. We all have dreams of becoming somebody great. And at time's we wonder what we were thinking about. Because usually the second step after the dream is an Iron Gate with a No Entry sign which no one can even try opening. I've had dreams of becoming someone great, but if I can't go past the second step. How can I even be astounded with the outcome? It's scary. It is! But until we take that step forward, we reach no where. There will be so many you jeer and pass snide remarks. If Susan Boyle had taken all that to heart. She would never have stood across the judges on the stage of Britain's Got Talent. Why should only some have the cake? If only our dreams lasted as long as the passion and the urge to take the starting step was there. It's a herd mentality. You always wonder why it would be the least fascinating to get out of the comfort zone we all enjoy and reach for something which was meant to be just a dream cause at time's things seem to Idealistic in life.

Randomness!!

College ended on a tearful note, like every separation would end on. Iv been through hell and heaven but when I look back it seems nothing. I got really nice friends at the end of it. After all the back biting, but there are exceptions to every rule and it's always hard to teach an obstinate, old dog new tricks. The lessons taken away was amazing. Im guessing my Fineness test worked out great. Fineness test is an experiment carried out in our 2nd year of Engineering to get the finest of materials. I thought I would continue using my same old cheat codes to get nice friends but sadly some people cheated my old cheat codes. They came almost too fine. I wonder whether these are the boons of a Profession or maybe you never make friends in your workplace as everyone says. It's hard to be wary when I know it isn't going to be like that. But isn't safety always better than curing yourself later. Iv stepped in the feet of a Professional and it doesn't seem like it. We're all a set of children still, each as unique as the other. Not one similar to the other. A set of children with a wonderful mommy as our trainer. A set of children with our company's ID card. It's been less then a month and everything seems so hazy. Everything seems to be running in perfect order. Can this actually be happening? It's so hard to shut the pessimist in me. Some experiences may never change the way you look at life and as I said it's very hard to teach an old dog new tricks. But if things are actually the way it is, I could sum up our training session as Epic!

When Perfect turns Im-perfect!

She wonders to herself what she wanted! She just didn't want anything without a soul! The Internet is something without a soul! Despite that Blogger has this uncanny capability of hearing her ranting's of almost anything and everything! How could she even call it heartless! She grins at the fact and Mr Imperfect's "You know I don't follow crap!" statement crops up! She seems annoyingly amused! But then again Mr Perfect vs Mr Imperfect! Mr Perfect does have a heart and a soul! Not that Mr Imperfect doesn't have it! But she's scared of getting her heart broken! Didn't she already get it broken badly? What was she looking for this time? But that again is something the heart decides on! I remember the number of teddies I had when I was small, I would keep them carefully not wanting to spoil them but within no time I had overgrown them, they still lie in my bedroom! Will she ever overgrow the feeling she has for Mr Imperfect? She thought she did, until he said "Sup?"! Mysteries of Life!