Breaking up "The Breakup"!

We're in our 20's! Our 20's is not the time to keep yourself unhappy and droopy and lifeless and all the synonyms associated with it! Though many of us, do just that! And hence I came up with this policy a while back after being at the unhappy and droopy and lifeless end for a longer while - "Breakup's are hard! But Breakup's are good!" (It's easy to say, but once done you realise it was for the good!)

If you have figured that you can not live with a particular person for even a few hours a day, then it's always better that you do the right thing of breaking up then and there rather then causing unwanted stress and tension to yourself later. If you can't be happy with someone, giving up on your happiness for someone how ever much you thought you loved them is not feasible. We are still young! I realised this after a while and I also realise that I was young enough not to form that policy earlier on in my life. I was afraid of consequences, but now I no longer am! I feel free though my past has still not settled itself down, it's still rolling in the dirt. It has not come to a stand still! 

So going by Breakup's I'm going to sort the 3 Major different types of breakup's there could possibly be (ie, Once it is finalised that the break up is going to be done) - 

1. A no sign Break up

2. A one minute Break up

3. An hour long Break up

And how the various recipients take it is even wonderful. They could be classified under 2 Categories - 

1. The Good Way

2. The Bad Way

Let's start with the type of Break up -

1. A no sign Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes one end of the spectrum and just walks out of your life one fine day without any warning.

2. A one minute Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes the mediocre path and just informs you that they are breaking up with you for so and so reason.

3. An hour long Break up - When the guy/ Girl takes the other end of the spectrum and explains why the relationship won't work or even just yells at the other explaining or even cries to the other explaining - But takes time to explain that it just won't work.

Each of those relationships is luckier than the other because if a person takes time off to explain to you every single thing, it would imply there was a bit of respect and sanity left for the other between the two of you'll as individuals not as a couple. 

But that would again depend on the way the recipient reciprocated as I stated previously -

1. The Good Way - The individuals understand the other's point of view and even though they try real hard to fight for it, they fail at saving the relationship. It's one thing to try and save a ship before it can hit the iceberg and it's another to try and save a ship after it has hit the ice berg. And most of the times, Breakup's happen after it has hit the iceberg and that is when the thinking has all been done with. But these good souls decide to take it as their fate and some decide to keep their ex's as their friends and some decide to stay away without causing the other any harm. Because after all, they were once "In Love". 

2. The Bad - The individuals in this act like they are understanding the reasons as to why it didn't work out but that is far from reality, they yell it out to the whole world. Not like the entire world was really bothered but there are a few crazy fanatics among them who add oil to the burning fire and make it even worse. There is threatening and more threatening from one end. There's a lot of bitching about the person who called for the break up. The recipient here loves to wallow in self pity and groups his and her friends and attacks them where their heart strings would match a tune. The AND highlighted is another sign of the need for attention and self pity. And once everything dies down, All the bitching is done. We think it's over but better yet, that was just the silence before the storm!

They hack through your little personal life through modes of Social Networking sites and the likes and somehow create another story! The Bad Guys - they never rest. They keep thinking of ways to ruin life for them and for others. 

What I have really never understood is that if you ever was in a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them. If this is a simple theorem used for falling in love, why can't the corollary exist? "If you ever ended a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them." Because you thought it would be good for the both of you'll to be happy rather than just one.    

Free Spirit!

Yes, I am 23! My life seems to be running at full speed without a break. There is now a monotony to life. The monotony brings about a calm which no one would have guessed it would. And then it's struck by a storm. (Gosh, I sound monotonous)

Little did I realise that I wasn't 50 to enjoy the monotony of life! And when it struck me I was half way through my race to become 24! Being the enthusiast I am, I was worried to know I could be happy with such a life. I always had my hands filled with work - with my little to do lists all over my room to that sense of accomplishment I feel when I've done something, with creating something new, with getting my hands dirty with the gooey chocolate from the chocolate cake I would have wanted to bake, to tapping out the keys on my laptop to write about something which struck me, to meeting friends and family, to doing absolutely nothing but just thinking at times! I was always busy.

And then I realised I stopped doing things I liked. I had stopped being spontaneous! Could I blame this on my age? That's the most convenient and clichéd reason ever. I have learnt time and again that if there is anyone or anything to blame for anything in your life - It is you and only you! I had let people walk over my parade, people who seemed worth it. But everything seems worth it when it's gift wrapped.

All that glitters ain't gold - I've heard this time and again from a very young age and only now did it strike me (with a little nudging which happened from external forces) that I fell for the glitter! What I didn't realise was that the non - glittered life seemed so much more real, so much more fun, so much more full of being the real me! People do grumble that I have become averse to my past and I've become a more strong minded person. Emotions do not get to me often but it does a lot of times but not as before. I remain the same person I was in matter of the qualities I had minus the fact that I allow anyone and everyone to rain on my parade.


It was indeed time for that!

Holidays - It made me realise the life I led minus the glitter. It seemed wonderful still. It seemed beautiful. It made me happy, I didn't have these added strings bogging me down. And on thinking over it I realised that I was always leading a life which was carefree, which seemed so free spirited and I Loved it! I loved it so much that I did feel like celebrating by going on a trip to the Himalayas. And that's when God smirks and says - "That's enough, Child! You're still getting your lazy mass of flesh and bones to office!"

The Clashes of the Sexes!

This was a survey done in order to give us something to laugh at, something to think about which was a far cry from the monotonous work in office.

Spokesperson asked - Why do Guys flirt with Girls?

Guy "A" - It is because their "Raging Hormones go crazy" or "They want to score"

Guy "B" - To make a girl feel nice. (This came from a guy who has never made a girl feel nice)

Guy "A" - Fine, If you really want to make her feel nice - "Compliment her" and not try to get in her pants!

Guy "B" remains oblivious to the reply made by Guy "A".

Guy "A" continues - The best reason why guys flirt is Time Pass

Spokesperson continues her quest.

Spokesperson asks Guy "C" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Guy "C" - (Smirks at the question and responds) That's simple, They can't flirt with guys!

Spokesperson stands flabbergasted!

Spokesperson still continues her quest.

Spokesperson asks Guy "D" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Guy "D" - For Sex!

Spokesperson - (to herself)  Whoa! Did I want to hear that?

Guy "D" - (continues his spree grinning) To make a girl feel on the top of the world!

Spokesperson seems she needs a break from the male gender and goes on to ask her female counterparts.

Spokesperson to Girl "A" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "A" - To satisfy their ego. To know that they have options and to want to explore more than what they have! To show off and sometimes it can be for more than just "talking"!

Spokesperson to Girl "A" - You are on a roll, Girl!

Girl "A" grins.

Spokesperson carries on her quest with Girl "A" by her side.

Girl "A" to Girl "B" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "B" - Its upto an individual, if he or she is happy being with the opposite sex around him or her in a very casual way then they flirt!

Girl "A" disagrees and says - If they want to be casual, they can as well speak normally! Why flirt?

Spokesperson nods her head in agreement.

Spokesperson carries on her quest.

Spokesperson to Girl "C" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "C" - To impress girls, just for time pass or maybe even for the reason that they like them and want to take the relationship forward.Depends on the guy who is flirting.. Mostly guys do it to kill time!

Spokesperson ends the survey as she has been enlightened enough that she can't form her own opinions! Her mind seems blank!

Spokesperson decides to conclude the entire survey.

Girl "A" saves the Spokesperson some energy and concludes - The conclusion of this survey is simple: Guys are mad, confused creatures who don't know what they only want! How can you call them the "Man of the house" huh? Huh? :-*

Guy "A" butts in and adds - This coming from a species who cant decide what shoes to buy, is full of irony :P

Spokesperson is flabbergasted yet again!

The Clashes of the Sexes!

I was speaking to a friend recently and he came up with this slightly "Not Logical" crap of his (Which is not anything new), but it did catch my attention.

He said that supposing this was a person's head and supposing inside that person's head there is a brain. The size of that would be something around this (as shown below). Smaller than the person's face as it needs to be inside their head and not outside.

And that normal person would think only about so much with his brain 

Considering the so much meant nothing!

Then he started comparing it with me!

 

He said that my mind works forever.

It doesn't take a break what so ever! 

Comparing me to a nervous wreck!

 

 

But I didn't budge! It was his silliness at it's peak! And after a while I realized that he had over-thought a bit to come up with his over exaggeration! 

Which just proves the first point of my post - "MEN OVER THINK MORE THAN WOMEN!"

Just as I came to the above conclusion, I had to stop and think and realised that it could not be and while doing some research on the same, I came across a really funny post which proves that - "WOMEN MAY OVERTHINK MORE AS COMPARED TO MEN!"

That led me to think of this post! 

It's obvious that men and women really don't think alike! Hence the book "Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus". 

Considering him as the man (though he's more of an Alien) and me as the woman, I realized that what most women want are similar and what most men want are again similar! Yet again, to every rule there is an exception - Hence, the usage of the term - "MOST".

The first basic difference between men and women are that - Women have emotion and Men lack emotion!

And when Men have emotion - they have an overdose of it that even women can not handle it! And when a woman can't handle it, you know that the world is not going in the right direction!

The second basic difference between men and women are that - Women are the one's who bring Men down to the level where they need to be and when a Woman over power's a Man in bragging, we know yet again the world is not going in the right direction!

And that's the most we can come upto!

These images of the "Male" and the "Female" brain totally sum up my entire post! 

I love the footnotes at the bottom of the brain for both the female as well as the male! 

And that's what we do!

"Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away."

This is a dialogue from the movie Hitch. 

My blog is about People! People I know, People Iv just seen, People I don't know and Me! 

This post is dedicated to my friends, something I have never done before but that's what I live for - Doing something different. Monotony kills me! 

Sonia D and Tina E! What can I say? 4 years of a mix of emotions and at the end it seemed all worth it. How did we ever manage finding each other? Becoming friends? Was it the "Same Height" factor? Cause 3 of us are so very different. And I wouldn't regret a moment we spent together. Be it fighting and not talking for days even though we sat on the same bench day after day. Or be it gossiping, crying, just being happy or pulling each others leg or even just being ourselves. The plans we've made - Endless! The plans executed - A Few! But the joy through it all.. Amazing! I wouldn't have survived Engineering without you'll both constantly making it harder and easier for me! The constant bickering, the constant hatred towards a few, the crushes, the Pairing up. The long walks we've had and the fact that we never got tired. The times our mouths would never shut. They were all so much fun! It's hard to pin point events in our lives because there are so many! And if they were pinpointed it would  be a "Comparison". And that would weaken the importance of each moment.

That quote from Hitch caught my attention - 
But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. - Something we've always done when we were sad and gloomy and even sleepy! 
If you must steal, steal away from bad company. - Something we've done unknowingly, but when we look back we realized everything shaped out for the good.
If you must cheat, cheat death.- The stunts we've done and the times through which God has just taken us through. 
And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away. - And this we've always done! Though I think I promised myself never to take you'll both ever again within 100 meters of a Pub. 

3 Small Girls - We grew up just fine. Promising to support each other through good times and bad once we were done with engineering. The emotions we brought out from each other. College's done! We've grown up, haven't we? We've become more bolder, naughtier than ever before and of course Better, Humane Human Beings! 

A Walk with Her!

He seemed like the perfect guy minus the adjectives which she had for him plus the few flaws. She thought to herself, If giving him a chance would make her happy then why not do something which would make herself happy? Irrespective of the fact that she would be hurt in the long run! No one wants to get hurt not when they already know what it feels like and she was no exception to the rule. Maybe as her friends said she was just grieving over the possible outcomes in the future and just not giving her present a chance! After all, he did make her happy! Wasn't that all that mattered? Why did he seem to matter? Why did she feel the need to share everything with him? Why did she feel the need to be with him. She had a beautiful present, a wonderful future or so she thinks. He just came and threw everything out of perspective for her. She wanted to think with her heart but thought it best to think with her mind. She wishes that everything was not that tough. She wishes everything was a bed of roses minus the thorns. If only wishes were like airplanes in the night sky! 

A Walk with Her!

Have you ever fallen in love the "Head over Heels" manner with someone? It's difficult to explain the feeling until we really do experience it. For each one of us it's different. For her it was too. She found her's to be extremely weird. She always knew the heel of Achiles was her heart. But this time her mind was seriously not functioning properly. All she knew was that little things would always continue to make her happy, be it listening to someone share what they did and did not do during the entire course of the day even though it was only 9 in the morning. Smiling at herself realising the person did expect her to listen and reciprocate. And grinning realising someone was not giving her space to talk and that she did not mind it one bit. "How weird?" was all that could cross her mind. She wondered whether it was just another easy fling for him or just another conquest he could add to his hat a few years down the lane or maybe he was interested in her girlfriends or maybe just maybe he was interested in just her. The But's and the Maybe's and the If's and the Um's filled up her mind. She knew she was nearing the end of the cliff. And she also realised if she fell off the cliff which she most probably would, she would never know if he would be there to catch her at the bottom.
Life's so unpredictable. But it seems fun till the Hurt-a-thon begins.  

A Walk with Her!

Has it ever just taken a second to turn something around. Probably a cover up for a lie, something which would brighten up someone's day? It was the same with her. It took her more than a few seconds to trust this person and it takes every alternate second to doubt the person. If only she could form a stable opinion. Could she ever? Would she ever? Her mind always thought in the sanest possible way but her heart. It was always her "Heel of Achiles" and forever would be.
She hated this person from the very core of her heart. But something strummed on her heart and it echoed out saying, "Let go and You will never know!" She didn't know when she did let go but her mind had already started losing the battle. And she really doesn't know! She wonders whether she can hold on. It is evident somethings make her happy and she can't stop talking about it. But it scares her no end to know that she would be proved totally wrong. Would she be proved wrong all over again?
The flutter is obvious, the skip of a heart beat is even more obvious, the glow is the most obvious! She's used to getting hurt by now but does she want to get hurt again. Would she be able to take it all over again? Does she want to give it a try all over again? Oh Boy, aren't we in for a hell lot of fun?

When Perfect turns Im-perfect!

She wonders to herself what she wanted! She just didn't want anything without a soul! The Internet is something without a soul! Despite that Blogger has this uncanny capability of hearing her ranting's of almost anything and everything! How could she even call it heartless! She grins at the fact and Mr Imperfect's "You know I don't follow crap!" statement crops up! She seems annoyingly amused! But then again Mr Perfect vs Mr Imperfect! Mr Perfect does have a heart and a soul! Not that Mr Imperfect doesn't have it! But she's scared of getting her heart broken! Didn't she already get it broken badly? What was she looking for this time? But that again is something the heart decides on! I remember the number of teddies I had when I was small, I would keep them carefully not wanting to spoil them but within no time I had overgrown them, they still lie in my bedroom! Will she ever overgrow the feeling she has for Mr Imperfect? She thought she did, until he said "Sup?"! Mysteries of Life!

When Perfect turns Im- Perfect!

It's a wonder she can't get sleep, after all it's pretty late to be up! Is it cause she's turning a year older? Is it cause life seems to be braking at full speed and only the screeches can be heard? Gee Life did seem fun when she wasn't alone! Like a lone star, she sits atop a rock, She gazes into the unforeseen, the wind gently blowing trying to see if it could take all her worries with it! Her heart seems heavy? Why was this happening? She doesn't know whether to cry or smile! Just as if to answer her doubt, tears gush down her cheek! Was this her way of unburdening her heart? Maybe! Would things have been different, if she had made choices which she probably was too scared to make? Was it worth trying? Cause she has learnt if it's worth keeping, it's worth trying! She looks up at the sky, smiles and winks! She's told her secrets to the one she's always ran to when she's happy and when she's sad! It's strange! At times, things which don't exist make you happy for reasons you've wished for!

Everyone wants to be a STAR!

This was something that I heard in a talk show recently, where the host and the “Star” said that every single human wants to be a star! So be it, to each their own! Just listening to that I wondered whether they realised that the stardom comes attached with Great responsibility. Without that, how can you call a person a star? They have done something great maybe once but it must continue, it mustn’t just stop there! This was something I had a discussion with a professor! It ain’t easy being a star but sometimes we really don’t want to be known because of the strings attached! It’s like some of the parables in the Bible! Where Jesus says when you give make sure your left hand doesn’t know you gave it! That’s the real star! Not someone who comes on TV! We are still alive because of the numerous forms of people working to make life on earth a little easier, the numerous soldiers whose names we don’t know out there whose given up their lives for the country, the numerous doctors out there trying to save these very “Star’s” Lives, the scientists, social workers! How do people define Stardom? Seriously, if ever it deals with people who are known by at least a part of the world it should be redefined! It’s not like I am against any sort of this “Stardom” but it is high time people redefine it! A Star doesn’t need to come on TV! How many of us know of people who are stars in our own eyes? For me it starts with my family, from my Grandfather to my Grandmother to my Parents- especially my Mother to my Aunt! We are seriously happy just being the way we are, we don’t want fame! We want our own little Private garden where we can make our own little mistakes without it being brought into the scrutiny of the whole world! We want to learn from those mistakes in our own time! A real star is what that person is in the dark and not what he is when he is in the spotlight! Celebrities do a lot of things in the limelight but do they lead the same lives in the dark? My Grandfather is a real Star…. He’s been among the people who fought for our country, he’s been among the people who worked hard to change the way people lived, he’s made life easier for so many people known and unknown! He’s made life easier for me! I really don’t care whether anyone ever knew my grandfather to be a star but to me he was a Star and will remain so forever! The same applies to my Grandmother and my Mother, My mother has made life easier at home not for just my brother and me but for 3 generations- my grandparents generation, her generation and mine! She has worked tirelessly without getting the slightest bit of appreciation! What drives her to still do it, without a grumble? That is a real star! She is a real star! My aunt she’s fought Cancer and that is no frivolous task with a family to maintain! These are the people who inspire us truly in our day to day lives! these people have given themselves for us, they’ve given up their happiness for us! They are the Real stars!

A Letter

Dear God, You know who I am; You know how good I have been and how bad I have been. (Even though that’s Santa’s job too) How true I have been and how true I have not been. You know what my future holds, You know every single detail. Your planning is just impeccable and incomparable. You are brought about as Our Ever Loving God and Ever Forgiving Father and maybe it’s because of that I write this letter to you. There are so many things I have taken for granted, so many times when I haven’t thanked you! You’ve kept me safe through thick and thin, you’ve kept my Family safe! Many a time I have forgotten to keep my promise to you alive, and I get furious when somebody doesn’t keep my promise. I lash back at you, when things don’t go my way. I ask you why you couldn’t get me through that one time, forgetting to thank you for all those times you got me through life! No wonder they call you Ever Loving and Ever Forgiving. You haven’t just got me through Life; you’ve taught me in your own time how to play this game called life, through little lessons every single day of my life. You’ve fulfilled my wishes, though many a times I don’t deserve it. You have taught me that something’s have to be earned. You’ve taught me that you cannot blame anyone for your mistakes except you. You’ve filled me up with that extra bout of energy, that extra loving heart, that extra wary personality to keep me safe and you’ve taught me that Charity always starts at Home! You’ve stood by me, when the entire world turned against me! You taught me that, there was nothing greater than fighting for One’s family and it’s values. You’ve showed me your angel’s and your work in the most unexpected of situations, through family, friends and enemies. Who else could teach this little girl so much! Thank you so much Dear God! I love you and I want you to know that I don’t do things on purpose, sometimes they are just weighed with a lot of emotion. Yours lovingly, Me. 

When Perfect turns Im-Perfect!

She wonders if its the end! It surely did feel like the end. Mr Imperfect seems to have stopped speaking to her after a Question he asked which she never gave an answer to!
She seems extremely happy for a reason she herself cant find!
Maybe cause she finally gathered the guts and told Imperfect that she still had feelings for him! Though he never replied which he usually does, but the happiness...
Maybe it was cause of the burden released after a very long time! Maybe she should get along with her Life this time! She had finally told him everything for whatever it was worth. The Worst or the Best! Whatever that meant.
Things which she thought he would understand he never did! Things which she thought about him seemed all wrong and she couldn't get a way back! Things just had this very funny way of getting back at her!
She wondered how long it would take for things to get back to Normal. Or maybe it would never get back to Normal. Maybe it wasn't meant to be! She wanted to leave but she just couldn't get herself to leave.
The ending didn't seem Happy? Maybe it wasn't Happy on only one side! Maybe Happy Endings were after all a Myth.

When Perfect turns Im-Perfect!

Something which she thought had ended a while back, struck again!
She tried figuring what exactly He was! She thought He would always turn out the Nice Guy she thought him to be! She compromised a lot, though her friends warned her against it! All that compromising had hurt her to the extremes. He never bothered coming out into the open! It was like He was scared of something! Something which would get his Ego all down! Something which he could not Imagine doing!
But had he gotten away everytime by joking around?
Or Maybe that wasn't called Flirting or Joking around according to him! Only according to everyone else!
Maybe he was just putting up a Good boy Image up! Trying not to give in to anything! That surely did Work!
She wondered why she bothered So much! Alas, only she knows and would not want any one else to know why she bothered so much!
Maybe saying a Sorry was not in his Genes. Or Maybe the Good Boy or Bad Boy Image which ever he thought he needed to keep up to had to be kept And there was No Sorry involved there!
But all she had to tell him was-
"Whether your Great or Not so Great! Small or Big! The Good or the Bad! An Apology forever will remain the same!"
Maybe he doesn't know how to care for People! Maybe He just knows how to Hurt them!
Maybe just Maybe He is Im-Perfect!
Or Maybe again this is just filled with Assumptions, though she will Never know the truth.