Breaking up "The Breakup"!

We're in our 20's! Our 20's is not the time to keep yourself unhappy and droopy and lifeless and all the synonyms associated with it! Though many of us, do just that! And hence I came up with this policy a while back after being at the unhappy and droopy and lifeless end for a longer while - "Breakup's are hard! But Breakup's are good!" (It's easy to say, but once done you realise it was for the good!)

If you have figured that you can not live with a particular person for even a few hours a day, then it's always better that you do the right thing of breaking up then and there rather then causing unwanted stress and tension to yourself later. If you can't be happy with someone, giving up on your happiness for someone how ever much you thought you loved them is not feasible. We are still young! I realised this after a while and I also realise that I was young enough not to form that policy earlier on in my life. I was afraid of consequences, but now I no longer am! I feel free though my past has still not settled itself down, it's still rolling in the dirt. It has not come to a stand still! 

So going by Breakup's I'm going to sort the 3 Major different types of breakup's there could possibly be (ie, Once it is finalised that the break up is going to be done) - 

1. A no sign Break up

2. A one minute Break up

3. An hour long Break up

And how the various recipients take it is even wonderful. They could be classified under 2 Categories - 

1. The Good Way

2. The Bad Way

Let's start with the type of Break up -

1. A no sign Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes one end of the spectrum and just walks out of your life one fine day without any warning.

2. A one minute Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes the mediocre path and just informs you that they are breaking up with you for so and so reason.

3. An hour long Break up - When the guy/ Girl takes the other end of the spectrum and explains why the relationship won't work or even just yells at the other explaining or even cries to the other explaining - But takes time to explain that it just won't work.

Each of those relationships is luckier than the other because if a person takes time off to explain to you every single thing, it would imply there was a bit of respect and sanity left for the other between the two of you'll as individuals not as a couple. 

But that would again depend on the way the recipient reciprocated as I stated previously -

1. The Good Way - The individuals understand the other's point of view and even though they try real hard to fight for it, they fail at saving the relationship. It's one thing to try and save a ship before it can hit the iceberg and it's another to try and save a ship after it has hit the ice berg. And most of the times, Breakup's happen after it has hit the iceberg and that is when the thinking has all been done with. But these good souls decide to take it as their fate and some decide to keep their ex's as their friends and some decide to stay away without causing the other any harm. Because after all, they were once "In Love". 

2. The Bad - The individuals in this act like they are understanding the reasons as to why it didn't work out but that is far from reality, they yell it out to the whole world. Not like the entire world was really bothered but there are a few crazy fanatics among them who add oil to the burning fire and make it even worse. There is threatening and more threatening from one end. There's a lot of bitching about the person who called for the break up. The recipient here loves to wallow in self pity and groups his and her friends and attacks them where their heart strings would match a tune. The AND highlighted is another sign of the need for attention and self pity. And once everything dies down, All the bitching is done. We think it's over but better yet, that was just the silence before the storm!

They hack through your little personal life through modes of Social Networking sites and the likes and somehow create another story! The Bad Guys - they never rest. They keep thinking of ways to ruin life for them and for others. 

What I have really never understood is that if you ever was in a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them. If this is a simple theorem used for falling in love, why can't the corollary exist? "If you ever ended a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them." Because you thought it would be good for the both of you'll to be happy rather than just one.