Breaking up "The Breakup"!

We're in our 20's! Our 20's is not the time to keep yourself unhappy and droopy and lifeless and all the synonyms associated with it! Though many of us, do just that! And hence I came up with this policy a while back after being at the unhappy and droopy and lifeless end for a longer while - "Breakup's are hard! But Breakup's are good!" (It's easy to say, but once done you realise it was for the good!)

If you have figured that you can not live with a particular person for even a few hours a day, then it's always better that you do the right thing of breaking up then and there rather then causing unwanted stress and tension to yourself later. If you can't be happy with someone, giving up on your happiness for someone how ever much you thought you loved them is not feasible. We are still young! I realised this after a while and I also realise that I was young enough not to form that policy earlier on in my life. I was afraid of consequences, but now I no longer am! I feel free though my past has still not settled itself down, it's still rolling in the dirt. It has not come to a stand still! 

So going by Breakup's I'm going to sort the 3 Major different types of breakup's there could possibly be (ie, Once it is finalised that the break up is going to be done) - 

1. A no sign Break up

2. A one minute Break up

3. An hour long Break up

And how the various recipients take it is even wonderful. They could be classified under 2 Categories - 

1. The Good Way

2. The Bad Way

Let's start with the type of Break up -

1. A no sign Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes one end of the spectrum and just walks out of your life one fine day without any warning.

2. A one minute Break up - When the Guy/ Girl takes the mediocre path and just informs you that they are breaking up with you for so and so reason.

3. An hour long Break up - When the guy/ Girl takes the other end of the spectrum and explains why the relationship won't work or even just yells at the other explaining or even cries to the other explaining - But takes time to explain that it just won't work.

Each of those relationships is luckier than the other because if a person takes time off to explain to you every single thing, it would imply there was a bit of respect and sanity left for the other between the two of you'll as individuals not as a couple. 

But that would again depend on the way the recipient reciprocated as I stated previously -

1. The Good Way - The individuals understand the other's point of view and even though they try real hard to fight for it, they fail at saving the relationship. It's one thing to try and save a ship before it can hit the iceberg and it's another to try and save a ship after it has hit the ice berg. And most of the times, Breakup's happen after it has hit the iceberg and that is when the thinking has all been done with. But these good souls decide to take it as their fate and some decide to keep their ex's as their friends and some decide to stay away without causing the other any harm. Because after all, they were once "In Love". 

2. The Bad - The individuals in this act like they are understanding the reasons as to why it didn't work out but that is far from reality, they yell it out to the whole world. Not like the entire world was really bothered but there are a few crazy fanatics among them who add oil to the burning fire and make it even worse. There is threatening and more threatening from one end. There's a lot of bitching about the person who called for the break up. The recipient here loves to wallow in self pity and groups his and her friends and attacks them where their heart strings would match a tune. The AND highlighted is another sign of the need for attention and self pity. And once everything dies down, All the bitching is done. We think it's over but better yet, that was just the silence before the storm!

They hack through your little personal life through modes of Social Networking sites and the likes and somehow create another story! The Bad Guys - they never rest. They keep thinking of ways to ruin life for them and for others. 

What I have really never understood is that if you ever was in a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them. If this is a simple theorem used for falling in love, why can't the corollary exist? "If you ever ended a relationship with someone, it was probably because you liked them, never because you hated them." Because you thought it would be good for the both of you'll to be happy rather than just one.    

Free Spirit!

Yes, I am 23! My life seems to be running at full speed without a break. There is now a monotony to life. The monotony brings about a calm which no one would have guessed it would. And then it's struck by a storm. (Gosh, I sound monotonous)

Little did I realise that I wasn't 50 to enjoy the monotony of life! And when it struck me I was half way through my race to become 24! Being the enthusiast I am, I was worried to know I could be happy with such a life. I always had my hands filled with work - with my little to do lists all over my room to that sense of accomplishment I feel when I've done something, with creating something new, with getting my hands dirty with the gooey chocolate from the chocolate cake I would have wanted to bake, to tapping out the keys on my laptop to write about something which struck me, to meeting friends and family, to doing absolutely nothing but just thinking at times! I was always busy.

And then I realised I stopped doing things I liked. I had stopped being spontaneous! Could I blame this on my age? That's the most convenient and clichéd reason ever. I have learnt time and again that if there is anyone or anything to blame for anything in your life - It is you and only you! I had let people walk over my parade, people who seemed worth it. But everything seems worth it when it's gift wrapped.

All that glitters ain't gold - I've heard this time and again from a very young age and only now did it strike me (with a little nudging which happened from external forces) that I fell for the glitter! What I didn't realise was that the non - glittered life seemed so much more real, so much more fun, so much more full of being the real me! People do grumble that I have become averse to my past and I've become a more strong minded person. Emotions do not get to me often but it does a lot of times but not as before. I remain the same person I was in matter of the qualities I had minus the fact that I allow anyone and everyone to rain on my parade.


It was indeed time for that!

Holidays - It made me realise the life I led minus the glitter. It seemed wonderful still. It seemed beautiful. It made me happy, I didn't have these added strings bogging me down. And on thinking over it I realised that I was always leading a life which was carefree, which seemed so free spirited and I Loved it! I loved it so much that I did feel like celebrating by going on a trip to the Himalayas. And that's when God smirks and says - "That's enough, Child! You're still getting your lazy mass of flesh and bones to office!"

The Clashes of the Sexes!

This was a survey done in order to give us something to laugh at, something to think about which was a far cry from the monotonous work in office.

Spokesperson asked - Why do Guys flirt with Girls?

Guy "A" - It is because their "Raging Hormones go crazy" or "They want to score"

Guy "B" - To make a girl feel nice. (This came from a guy who has never made a girl feel nice)

Guy "A" - Fine, If you really want to make her feel nice - "Compliment her" and not try to get in her pants!

Guy "B" remains oblivious to the reply made by Guy "A".

Guy "A" continues - The best reason why guys flirt is Time Pass

Spokesperson continues her quest.

Spokesperson asks Guy "C" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Guy "C" - (Smirks at the question and responds) That's simple, They can't flirt with guys!

Spokesperson stands flabbergasted!

Spokesperson still continues her quest.

Spokesperson asks Guy "D" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Guy "D" - For Sex!

Spokesperson - (to herself)  Whoa! Did I want to hear that?

Guy "D" - (continues his spree grinning) To make a girl feel on the top of the world!

Spokesperson seems she needs a break from the male gender and goes on to ask her female counterparts.

Spokesperson to Girl "A" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "A" - To satisfy their ego. To know that they have options and to want to explore more than what they have! To show off and sometimes it can be for more than just "talking"!

Spokesperson to Girl "A" - You are on a roll, Girl!

Girl "A" grins.

Spokesperson carries on her quest with Girl "A" by her side.

Girl "A" to Girl "B" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "B" - Its upto an individual, if he or she is happy being with the opposite sex around him or her in a very casual way then they flirt!

Girl "A" disagrees and says - If they want to be casual, they can as well speak normally! Why flirt?

Spokesperson nods her head in agreement.

Spokesperson carries on her quest.

Spokesperson to Girl "C" - Why do guys flirt with girls?

Girl "C" - To impress girls, just for time pass or maybe even for the reason that they like them and want to take the relationship forward.Depends on the guy who is flirting.. Mostly guys do it to kill time!

Spokesperson ends the survey as she has been enlightened enough that she can't form her own opinions! Her mind seems blank!

Spokesperson decides to conclude the entire survey.

Girl "A" saves the Spokesperson some energy and concludes - The conclusion of this survey is simple: Guys are mad, confused creatures who don't know what they only want! How can you call them the "Man of the house" huh? Huh? :-*

Guy "A" butts in and adds - This coming from a species who cant decide what shoes to buy, is full of irony :P

Spokesperson is flabbergasted yet again!

22 going on 23!

Here I am wondering how wonderful the journey has been these past 23 years! God's mercy has just seeped in the most unknown forms into my life and it has turned out to be just perfect (I, touch wood - something which I've learnt over the years - Apparently, On touching wood the wood sprites get pleased and prevent any ill luck that could come from a favourable observation just made!). But then again I would love to divulge more details on the "Touch Wood" phrase!

Blessings showered on me - Infinite! (Every single moment I have lived till date is a blessing) Lessons learnt innumerous! People met - Too many! Friends made - Not too many! (I'm choosy when it comes to making friends, they have to go through the "Fineness test"!) Something which I have learnt over the years as well - To be wary! I really don't know who said this but I'm rephrasing the quote to match me now - "I'm 18 with 4 years of experience!"

Getting back to the main point as to why I started writing this post! This post has been more of a ritual every year! This year unlike all the previous years, I officially feel OLD! It's been an amazing journey so far, blah, blah and more blah! I'm grateful to a number of people whose been in my life, walked out of it and made it slightly more peaceful and to some extent less entertaining! But then again, everything happens for a reason and this is something that I have learnt over the years and have abided by it! I have also learnt that people do not have to like you all the time, if they hate you (though it is a pretty strong word) or rather dislike you - "Give a damn"! The very reason they dislike you is proof that you are Human! 

I've donned so many roles in the past 22 years and continue to don the same and they will forever remain very close to me - I've been the little baby everyone was a little envious of, I've been the Apple of my Grandfather's eye, I am a Daughter, I am Daddy's Little Princess, I am a Sister, I've been a doting Grand Daughter, I am a Niece, I've been an awesome "Smallest" Cousin (In every context), I am an Aunt, I've been a Classmate, I've been a Student, I've been and still am a Teacher ( In a 100 different Subjects - I've been a Teacher to myself as well, a million times!), I've been and still am a constant learner (Yes, I am exaggerating a bit here - Come on! Who doesn't like the limelight on them for a while!) I am a Friend, I am a Soul Sister, I am a Worry Bin (I know I do not have copyright to use the Worry Bin but that status has been granted to me so I'm just boasting!), I've been a Shoulder to Cry on, I've been the World's Worst and Best Support to my family, (Yes, it is indeed a World of Contradictions I live in), I've become an Engineer, I am a Professional (At work <- Oh Yes, I work> and otherwise too), I've been the reason for many a Smiles and many a Tears (Not too many tears though or rather I wouldn't be too sure of), I've been a Lover (I've loved too many things in Life - The zest and the love for living life being the biggest!), I've donned all these and hopefully much more in the years to come!

To live life spontaneously is one of the best lessons of my life! It is amazing when you just let go of your life for just that little bit and enjoy the perks of letting go as long as you can bring yourself back to one piece! And not split into a Hundred Different Pieces! Some of the lessons (actually, they can't be termed as lessons) that I have learnt from being spontaneous is that you stop giving a damn about what the entire world thinks! You do it cause it makes YOU happy!

I am a person of contradictions, I have a loving, caring and naive heart which gets hurt too often though my mind remains steadfast and ever supportive in the most unlikeliest of ways! My Mind and Heart are the 2 contradictory factors in my very being! But I love them both alike cause I'd never live life with the "Dramatic Flair" people say I have otherwise!

I've had the best of every possible world there could be out there! (Well, almost every possible world out there!) I've had fairy tales and I've had nightmares!

I look around and I smile, I am Blessed!

So here's a toast to me, for Happy Happy Ever Ever After!

(I close my eyes, it is the end of my post! Not the end of my life, I'm just beginning to live!)

The Clashes of the Sexes!

I was speaking to a friend recently and he came up with this slightly "Not Logical" crap of his (Which is not anything new), but it did catch my attention.

He said that supposing this was a person's head and supposing inside that person's head there is a brain. The size of that would be something around this (as shown below). Smaller than the person's face as it needs to be inside their head and not outside.

And that normal person would think only about so much with his brain 

Considering the so much meant nothing!

Then he started comparing it with me!

 

He said that my mind works forever.

It doesn't take a break what so ever! 

Comparing me to a nervous wreck!

 

 

But I didn't budge! It was his silliness at it's peak! And after a while I realized that he had over-thought a bit to come up with his over exaggeration! 

Which just proves the first point of my post - "MEN OVER THINK MORE THAN WOMEN!"

Just as I came to the above conclusion, I had to stop and think and realised that it could not be and while doing some research on the same, I came across a really funny post which proves that - "WOMEN MAY OVERTHINK MORE AS COMPARED TO MEN!"

That led me to think of this post! 

It's obvious that men and women really don't think alike! Hence the book "Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus". 

Considering him as the man (though he's more of an Alien) and me as the woman, I realized that what most women want are similar and what most men want are again similar! Yet again, to every rule there is an exception - Hence, the usage of the term - "MOST".

The first basic difference between men and women are that - Women have emotion and Men lack emotion!

And when Men have emotion - they have an overdose of it that even women can not handle it! And when a woman can't handle it, you know that the world is not going in the right direction!

The second basic difference between men and women are that - Women are the one's who bring Men down to the level where they need to be and when a Woman over power's a Man in bragging, we know yet again the world is not going in the right direction!

And that's the most we can come upto!

These images of the "Male" and the "Female" brain totally sum up my entire post! 

I love the footnotes at the bottom of the brain for both the female as well as the male!