Peace in the midst of "Traffic"

Traffic everywhere is a nuisance. It's hectic, tiresome and boring. Only till recently, for me! It was a Saturday, a day I sit with my Mother and go to see my Grandmother. I have always been on the Non - Violent, Peaceful side while not driving or riding, which implies I am the exact opposite when I'm driving or even riding for that matter. I think my entire family has that streak only when they are riding or driving. hile we're not we are more peaceful than Saints. The glow just shows in our faces. (Yes, I am a very sarcastic person at times!)

While I'm with my mother we talk about almost everything. I do most of the talking, I could easily shut a person for a day. But this one day, I was silent in my own world when I saw some wonderful sights. In the midst of all the traffic, the hurrying and scurrying, the sights I saw were something which fascinated me. Something which could easily take the boredom of driving or even riding. If only we had the time to stop and stare.

Amid-st the chaos - I saw this very old couple, singing joyfully, so content with themselves. The joy I have seen when my Grandfather was still alive in my Grandmother's eyes. Old people have this effect on me, which other's don't. An effect of tenderness and heart melting warmth, love and care.

I saw a newly wedded couple looking into each other's eyes and smiling. I saw a Baby Girl laugh out loud in between her parents. The peace was not only with us "Homo Sapiens", it very much existed with the Animal Kingdom (Including the birds) - I saw a dog sleep peacefully on one corner of the road below the shade of a tree and on that tree I heard a bird sing.

I reached my Grandmother's house after all the sights I saw and I started to speaking to my Grandmother. When all of a sudden she stops me and says that bird's calling out to you and asking you, "Hello! How are you?" It took sometime for me to realize there was a bird sitting on a tree coo-ing away to glory. It did take time for my ears to shut out the noise of the traffic and hear the little bird.

Have we grown so busy that we don't notice this at all? Do we have that many anxieties? It's weird at times that the people you least expect to hear it from tell you something which blows your mind away. This reminded me of a poem I once recited in school by William Henry Davies. It goes along the following lines-

What is this life if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs

And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,

Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,

Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,

And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can

Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

And that's what we do!

"Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away."

This is a dialogue from the movie Hitch. 

My blog is about People! People I know, People Iv just seen, People I don't know and Me! 

This post is dedicated to my friends, something I have never done before but that's what I live for - Doing something different. Monotony kills me! 

Sonia D and Tina E! What can I say? 4 years of a mix of emotions and at the end it seemed all worth it. How did we ever manage finding each other? Becoming friends? Was it the "Same Height" factor? Cause 3 of us are so very different. And I wouldn't regret a moment we spent together. Be it fighting and not talking for days even though we sat on the same bench day after day. Or be it gossiping, crying, just being happy or pulling each others leg or even just being ourselves. The plans we've made - Endless! The plans executed - A Few! But the joy through it all.. Amazing! I wouldn't have survived Engineering without you'll both constantly making it harder and easier for me! The constant bickering, the constant hatred towards a few, the crushes, the Pairing up. The long walks we've had and the fact that we never got tired. The times our mouths would never shut. They were all so much fun! It's hard to pin point events in our lives because there are so many! And if they were pinpointed it would  be a "Comparison". And that would weaken the importance of each moment.

That quote from Hitch caught my attention - 
But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. - Something we've always done when we were sad and gloomy and even sleepy! 
If you must steal, steal away from bad company. - Something we've done unknowingly, but when we look back we realized everything shaped out for the good.
If you must cheat, cheat death.- The stunts we've done and the times through which God has just taken us through. 
And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away. - And this we've always done! Though I think I promised myself never to take you'll both ever again within 100 meters of a Pub. 

3 Small Girls - We grew up just fine. Promising to support each other through good times and bad once we were done with engineering. The emotions we brought out from each other. College's done! We've grown up, haven't we? We've become more bolder, naughtier than ever before and of course Better, Humane Human Beings! 

That One Step!

Why does everything have to be so complicated in life? Maybe Life was always complicated but I never thought in such a complicated manner! It was a striking statement at work today which made a huge difference to my evening - "TRUST NO ONE!". Seriously? Why not?
Competition existed ever since we were in Preparatory. How come we just blindly trusted people and became friends? When did life complicate itself so much to thrown that statement at me. I do take time to make friends but when I do, It's sticking with them through good times and bad.
Going for a "Team building" outing from work, made each one of us realize the importance of trust! Being blind folded and made to walk a rope which was 4 feet off the ground with just 2 of your team mates holding you is quite a feat without blindly trusting your team mates to take you through. Competition existed till I passed out of Engineering. Some came first while others didn't. The bottom line was - We didn't work hard enough!
When did Trust become such a big issue? It is a big one! But not trusting anyone?! That's just too big an issue to be answered by me. Imagine a world where no one trusted anyone, it would be sadistic! It would be chaotic! It just wouldn't be nice!
How wonderful it would be if we all just took that one step, laid down all our fears and just became friends minus the back biting and the Office gossip, we are so used to!
All it takes is one tiny step! That tiny step a baby takes. Minus the fear and distrust because they are all  inbuilt.

Life in all it's Simplicity after the storm!

Some of the little joys we enjoyed as kids were just thinking that being together depended solely on 2 people! Just the "You" and the "Me". Little did we even know about that cruel thing or even not so cruel thing called Fate. And then we grow a little older and we realize that things just do not go our way! And that's when we decided to name that particular event in our life as Fate!



Those are the dreaded times we wish Pandora had never opened that dreaded box which we know so popularly as "Pandoras Box". That box which brought out pain, suffering and all the evils life had! It's easier to believe in mythology at times and blame it on that one person. Not once thinking whether we were right!



And sometimes Life just goes on! Even if you are broken into a 100 different pieces it just goes on!
For Calvin, it's so much more easier to confide in his toy tiger Hobbes because Hobbes would never hurt Calvin! And sometimes it's all the more easier to stay away and avoid getting hurt. And then we think again!
It's always so easy watching out for what's ahead of us that we fail to enjoy the moment.

We try to avoid the fact that we were really offended and really hurt. Who are we fooling?




Words are the only thing which have the power to slice and seer the heart, sometimes even worse than an arrow.


And when the hurt of the rudeness somehow manages to find it's way back to the giver. The receiver of the rudeness has that smug which says, "Ha! He actually isn't that stone hearted!" but then we refuse to let go of the event because we believe that some people deserve "A Swift kick in the butt"


And then we wonder





And then we realize we couldn't ask for anything better. Because deep inside each of our hearts, we know whether we like it or not, "We have to, are going to be and forever will be there for each other!"



Because they are those people we've known forever, who know us in a way that other people don't, because they have seen you change and most importantly let you change!

What's the big deal about it?

“Life, weddings, relationships, road trips, gardening, making out, haircuts: few of the fun things in life which always go as expected.” 

The few things which interest us are so few but yet they have the magnanimity to make up for everything which do not interest us. One of the very few things which has always interested me was weddings and they will continue to intrigue me.

I, like every other girl have my perception of my dream wedding. Every girl wants their wedding to be just perfect. It is so easy to say it out loud to the world but when it comes to implementing it, like anything else in the world it is sometimes a tedious task. I have two wonderful sisters and they have had their perceptions on the perfect wedding. I was too small to help them out in the tiny details but I’m pretty sure I could avoid on all the errors they made after life's too short to learn from your own mistakes only!

This blog is dedicated to those little things which make us happy and glow on that special day. I belong to a Syrian Christian family and Marriages here is a very important event! it is not the event where 2 people have decided to live with each other the rest of their lives it is also the marriage of 2 families. Every girl has her dream wedding. So do I! I want a White wedding with only 125 guests invited. (The number will change for all it’s worth!) But it’s a girl’s dream and who is anyone to snatch it away from her? After all, the Bride is the showstopper of the day! The princess whose getting married. And the parents of the Bride would have it no other way!

A White Wedding is hard to explain but a picture can always speak a thousand words.

OR something like the one I have posted before...

It is obviously going to be an arduous task to find takers for my idea but not if I actually worked on it?

Why would I want someone to plan my wedding when everything, every minutest detail is in my head?

So here I am taking it as a task to find the different themes I could enjoy, starting with the White wedding theme!

Appacha!

It's been over a decade and I still miss you terribly. A lot of things would have been different if only you were here with me. But you've taught me so much in such a little time. It's hard to keep your legacy alive but I keep trying every single day. You were my first best friend, my first story teller, my first mentor and guide, my first protector. You formed a lot of my first's. You were my Super Hero!
I know you look from above and I can feel you pushing me on when things go wrong and I just do not want to carry on. I know you still beam proudly when I have accomplished something. You keep reminding me of all the simple things in life - Giving a smile to someone when the whole world is crumbling around you, cause you never know what that smile could do. Giving the little you have to the one who needs it more than you. To Forgive and Forget all the wrong done to you, however hard it may sound at first. The one way talks I have with you and your reply being a miracle. I know at times I sound kiddish but these are the little things which push me on in life.
After all, I have the rights to act kiddish cause I was your favorite and you were always and will always be my favorite. I love you Appacha!

A Walk with Her!

He seemed like the perfect guy minus the adjectives which she had for him plus the few flaws. She thought to herself, If giving him a chance would make her happy then why not do something which would make herself happy? Irrespective of the fact that she would be hurt in the long run! No one wants to get hurt not when they already know what it feels like and she was no exception to the rule. Maybe as her friends said she was just grieving over the possible outcomes in the future and just not giving her present a chance! After all, he did make her happy! Wasn't that all that mattered? Why did he seem to matter? Why did she feel the need to share everything with him? Why did she feel the need to be with him. She had a beautiful present, a wonderful future or so she thinks. He just came and threw everything out of perspective for her. She wanted to think with her heart but thought it best to think with her mind. She wishes that everything was not that tough. She wishes everything was a bed of roses minus the thorns. If only wishes were like airplanes in the night sky!