The Clashes of the Sexes!

I was speaking to a friend recently and he came up with this slightly "Not Logical" crap of his (Which is not anything new), but it did catch my attention.

He said that supposing this was a person's head and supposing inside that person's head there is a brain. The size of that would be something around this (as shown below). Smaller than the person's face as it needs to be inside their head and not outside.

And that normal person would think only about so much with his brain 

Considering the so much meant nothing!

Then he started comparing it with me!

 

He said that my mind works forever.

It doesn't take a break what so ever! 

Comparing me to a nervous wreck!

 

 

But I didn't budge! It was his silliness at it's peak! And after a while I realized that he had over-thought a bit to come up with his over exaggeration! 

Which just proves the first point of my post - "MEN OVER THINK MORE THAN WOMEN!"

Just as I came to the above conclusion, I had to stop and think and realised that it could not be and while doing some research on the same, I came across a really funny post which proves that - "WOMEN MAY OVERTHINK MORE AS COMPARED TO MEN!"

That led me to think of this post! 

It's obvious that men and women really don't think alike! Hence the book "Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus". 

Considering him as the man (though he's more of an Alien) and me as the woman, I realized that what most women want are similar and what most men want are again similar! Yet again, to every rule there is an exception - Hence, the usage of the term - "MOST".

The first basic difference between men and women are that - Women have emotion and Men lack emotion!

And when Men have emotion - they have an overdose of it that even women can not handle it! And when a woman can't handle it, you know that the world is not going in the right direction!

The second basic difference between men and women are that - Women are the one's who bring Men down to the level where they need to be and when a Woman over power's a Man in bragging, we know yet again the world is not going in the right direction!

And that's the most we can come upto!

These images of the "Male" and the "Female" brain totally sum up my entire post! 

I love the footnotes at the bottom of the brain for both the female as well as the male! 

India, Don't put me down!

Anything in the below post is my opinion and solely my opinion.

I am a 22 year old working professional but I am also a Grand Daughter, a Daughter, a Sister, a Niece, a Cousin, an Aunt, a Friend and most importantly a GIRL! A girl who is scared to take a step without the fear of being a victim to the atrocities we have seen over the past one month because she knows she is on her own and that if she can not fight for her own life, NO ONE WILL.

The month of December had a lot of people speaking up for themselves. Some of them standing up for themselves and fighting for justice and some of them speaking up utter crap!

December 16th could easily be the day that I felt India awoke from it's hibernation - The day which brought utter shame to India when a 23 year old girl was Gang Raped! The day which shook me out of my wits. The day which made me afraid of India - The country I was born and brought up in.

After 13 long days of struggling to live, The 23-year-old physiotherapy student died succumbing to her injuries after being brutally beaten up and raped by six drunken men in a private bus which was driven around south Delhi localities on the night of December 16th 2012. Today, being the tragic end of that 23 year old girl's life who awakened India.

What can we infer from this? That girls are not allowed to roam around the streets of their own country without the fear of being raped, running in their minds the entire time? What were the safe keepers of our country doing? If their job isn't to keep the country's citizens safe then what is their job? 100 hours after the gang rape, there was a laud for them when they caught just 5 of the 6 Rapists.Yes, they did a good job but only after the girl was brutally raped. Here are a few News clippings which show us how lightly the case was being taken. Hardly days after that gruesome rape, there was another rape in Gujrat! What is the signal we are trying to give people here? Get another country to live in, cause you may just get Gang Raped in India.

What gets even more annoying is the fact that Cops have been extremely biased to Rape victims. They have slapped around sexist remarks questioning the character of the victims! And to top it, Cops from the state of Gujrat are willing to offer a compensatory amount to the rape victim's family! Why? What are they trying to do? Are they trying to cover up something? Will the girl ever be able to lead a normal life without listening to all the snide remarks passed about her even though her family is given a compensation? The Girl would never be able to lead a normal life! But, Men can resume their life just where they stopped it before the rape. The reason it boils down to is the simple fact that we live in a Patriarchal society. How come only women's character's are questioned, how come no one ever question's a man's character? Why are we as little girls always told to dress up properly, not to walk around alone in unknown places? Why can't anyone teach men to respect women and behave themselves? If only Boys were taught at a young age! 

If the same were to happen to anyone from a Politician's family or a well known personality' family, would it have been taken with the same gusto or even more? Why the bias? We are after all Indian citizens and we all have the same rights.

The Women who were raped - They were/ are Victims. The definition of a victim just in, case you'll forgot is a person who suffers from a destructive or an injurious action/ a person who is deceived or cheated. It doesn't stop with the cops, the Politicians drunken with power have made outrageously sexist remarks too. Right from WB minister Anisur Rahman's remarks to the President's son - Abhijit Mukherjee with his dented and painted comment to the TMC Leader Kakoli Ghosh's with her remark about the Park Street Rape victim. Who are they to make such comments? When did India become so unreliable? Why must we take in insults made by our fellow country men - by the people we look up to? It is one thing to go to other countries and listen to a few nasty racist remarks but to listen to a few in one's own country from Leaders degrades the country as a whole.

What the Police have to do, Charge the accused! Will it do justice for the victim by just slapping murder charges against the accused? Will that make it safer for me to walk in my city with my head held up high? Of course NOT! The Rapists have to be charged under the IPC - That was foreseen, they have to be. But what I would demand is that the Rapists must be hanged to death in front of the people of India! And the Minor must be given the same punishment! Because everyone can differentiate what is Right and what is Wrong at a very young age! And for him to plead for justice because he is a minor is unacceptable. Why can we just not have Capital Punishment for Rape? Are India's laws too old that it can't be bent? Isn't India bothered about the welfare of it's women citizens? If those men could not value a girl's life, why must we value their lives? I was always taught to "Live and Let Live", if people can't follow that simple principle, who gives them the right to live?  

Not a day passed by without me praying for that girl's speedy recovery and justice to her and the many oppressed and of course, the fact that India would open up and do something about it. Rather than let it pass with the blink of an eye. This as a matter of fact opened my eyes to so many things India has so beautifully hidden. But I wish I didn't have to have my eyes opened when a girl was so brutally raped. How come it took us this one Girl's life to bring out the evils in Society, She wouldn't have been a victim if only the evil had been cut at the nib. She did bring out the anger to fight in each and every girl, every woman. My heart goes out to her parents as they are left with nothing but memories. Your daughter's will to fight is an inspiration to many. 

The Leaders and The Police of our country have proved their mettle. Isn't it high time we follow what we learnt when we were small under the subject "Civics"? The fact that India is a Democratic country - For the People, By the People and Of the People!

I hope reforms are made For the People (Safeguarding of every citizen), By the People (in Power) and Of the People.

Mute Spectators!!

"Words were not given to man in order to conceal his thoughts"

All opinions expressed in this post are solely mine. They are not to disregard any person, religion or country. It is solely a post which serves as an outlet to a 20+ working professional.

At a time like this, every single girl out there is scared to express their views. The last time I checked India was a free country and every Indian citizen was given the Freedom of Expression. But after what happened to those 2 girls in Mumbai. Are we really assured of the same?

Just in case your unsure about what i'm talking about, Click here!

It got me wondering whether we really lived in a free country. What shocked me was the audacity with which the safe keepers of our country actually treated those girls. And what shocks me even more is that certain people really supported the actions of the people who safeguards our country. After reading the comments on that particular news post, I lost every ounce of hope I had in my generation. But yet again there are exceptions to every rule! At times I wonder why we remain the Mute spectators we are, but I guess old habits die hard. Mute spectators we were and forever will remain. Every cell in my body just keeps yelling out - "Stop, There is nothing more to write!" I personally have lost my interest after reading a few comments and have decide to resume my life.

And before continuing on, I would love to share this little piece from Calvin and Hobbes-

Calvin: Isn’t it strange that evolution would give us a sense of humour? When you think about it, it’s weird that we have a physiological response to absurdity. We laugh at nonsense. We like it. We think it’s funny. Don’t you think it’s odd that we appreciate absurdity? Why would we develop that way? How does it benefit us?

Hobbes: I suppose if we couldn’t laugh at things that don’t make sense, we couldn’t react to a lot of life.

Calvin: (after a long pause) I can’t tell if that’s funny or really scary.

The above was something similar to the way I felt after I read the comments on that news post. Simply stated, I as a girl would be scared to get back home from work every night if this is the case. If the people who are meant to protect us don't, then who does. Everyone has lived by the policy to each his own and I guess that implies to every sphere of life - Right from safeguarding ourselves to standing up for ourselves.

And this comes back to the basic philosophy - "When all else fails, Family prevails!"

Peace in the midst of "Traffic"

Traffic everywhere is a nuisance. It's hectic, tiresome and boring. Only till recently, for me! It was a Saturday, a day I sit with my Mother and go to see my Grandmother. I have always been on the Non - Violent, Peaceful side while not driving or riding, which implies I am the exact opposite when I'm driving or even riding for that matter. I think my entire family has that streak only when they are riding or driving. hile we're not we are more peaceful than Saints. The glow just shows in our faces. (Yes, I am a very sarcastic person at times!)

While I'm with my mother we talk about almost everything. I do most of the talking, I could easily shut a person for a day. But this one day, I was silent in my own world when I saw some wonderful sights. In the midst of all the traffic, the hurrying and scurrying, the sights I saw were something which fascinated me. Something which could easily take the boredom of driving or even riding. If only we had the time to stop and stare.

Amid-st the chaos - I saw this very old couple, singing joyfully, so content with themselves. The joy I have seen when my Grandfather was still alive in my Grandmother's eyes. Old people have this effect on me, which other's don't. An effect of tenderness and heart melting warmth, love and care.

I saw a newly wedded couple looking into each other's eyes and smiling. I saw a Baby Girl laugh out loud in between her parents. The peace was not only with us "Homo Sapiens", it very much existed with the Animal Kingdom (Including the birds) - I saw a dog sleep peacefully on one corner of the road below the shade of a tree and on that tree I heard a bird sing.

I reached my Grandmother's house after all the sights I saw and I started to speaking to my Grandmother. When all of a sudden she stops me and says that bird's calling out to you and asking you, "Hello! How are you?" It took sometime for me to realize there was a bird sitting on a tree coo-ing away to glory. It did take time for my ears to shut out the noise of the traffic and hear the little bird.

Have we grown so busy that we don't notice this at all? Do we have that many anxieties? It's weird at times that the people you least expect to hear it from tell you something which blows your mind away. This reminded me of a poem I once recited in school by William Henry Davies. It goes along the following lines-

What is this life if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs

And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,

Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,

Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,

And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can

Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

And that's what we do!

"Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink. But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. If you must steal, steal away from bad company. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away."

This is a dialogue from the movie Hitch. 

My blog is about People! People I know, People Iv just seen, People I don't know and Me! 

This post is dedicated to my friends, something I have never done before but that's what I live for - Doing something different. Monotony kills me! 

Sonia D and Tina E! What can I say? 4 years of a mix of emotions and at the end it seemed all worth it. How did we ever manage finding each other? Becoming friends? Was it the "Same Height" factor? Cause 3 of us are so very different. And I wouldn't regret a moment we spent together. Be it fighting and not talking for days even though we sat on the same bench day after day. Or be it gossiping, crying, just being happy or pulling each others leg or even just being ourselves. The plans we've made - Endless! The plans executed - A Few! But the joy through it all.. Amazing! I wouldn't have survived Engineering without you'll both constantly making it harder and easier for me! The constant bickering, the constant hatred towards a few, the crushes, the Pairing up. The long walks we've had and the fact that we never got tired. The times our mouths would never shut. They were all so much fun! It's hard to pin point events in our lives because there are so many! And if they were pinpointed it would  be a "Comparison". And that would weaken the importance of each moment.

That quote from Hitch caught my attention - 
But if you must lie, lie in the arms of the one you love. - Something we've always done when we were sad and gloomy and even sleepy! 
If you must steal, steal away from bad company. - Something we've done unknowingly, but when we look back we realized everything shaped out for the good.
If you must cheat, cheat death.- The stunts we've done and the times through which God has just taken us through. 
And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away. - And this we've always done! Though I think I promised myself never to take you'll both ever again within 100 meters of a Pub. 

3 Small Girls - We grew up just fine. Promising to support each other through good times and bad once we were done with engineering. The emotions we brought out from each other. College's done! We've grown up, haven't we? We've become more bolder, naughtier than ever before and of course Better, Humane Human Beings! 

That One Step!

Why does everything have to be so complicated in life? Maybe Life was always complicated but I never thought in such a complicated manner! It was a striking statement at work today which made a huge difference to my evening - "TRUST NO ONE!". Seriously? Why not?
Competition existed ever since we were in Preparatory. How come we just blindly trusted people and became friends? When did life complicate itself so much to thrown that statement at me. I do take time to make friends but when I do, It's sticking with them through good times and bad.
Going for a "Team building" outing from work, made each one of us realize the importance of trust! Being blind folded and made to walk a rope which was 4 feet off the ground with just 2 of your team mates holding you is quite a feat without blindly trusting your team mates to take you through. Competition existed till I passed out of Engineering. Some came first while others didn't. The bottom line was - We didn't work hard enough!
When did Trust become such a big issue? It is a big one! But not trusting anyone?! That's just too big an issue to be answered by me. Imagine a world where no one trusted anyone, it would be sadistic! It would be chaotic! It just wouldn't be nice!
How wonderful it would be if we all just took that one step, laid down all our fears and just became friends minus the back biting and the Office gossip, we are so used to!
All it takes is one tiny step! That tiny step a baby takes. Minus the fear and distrust because they are all  inbuilt.

Life in all it's Simplicity after the storm!

Some of the little joys we enjoyed as kids were just thinking that being together depended solely on 2 people! Just the "You" and the "Me". Little did we even know about that cruel thing or even not so cruel thing called Fate. And then we grow a little older and we realize that things just do not go our way! And that's when we decided to name that particular event in our life as Fate!



Those are the dreaded times we wish Pandora had never opened that dreaded box which we know so popularly as "Pandoras Box". That box which brought out pain, suffering and all the evils life had! It's easier to believe in mythology at times and blame it on that one person. Not once thinking whether we were right!



And sometimes Life just goes on! Even if you are broken into a 100 different pieces it just goes on!
For Calvin, it's so much more easier to confide in his toy tiger Hobbes because Hobbes would never hurt Calvin! And sometimes it's all the more easier to stay away and avoid getting hurt. And then we think again!
It's always so easy watching out for what's ahead of us that we fail to enjoy the moment.

We try to avoid the fact that we were really offended and really hurt. Who are we fooling?




Words are the only thing which have the power to slice and seer the heart, sometimes even worse than an arrow.


And when the hurt of the rudeness somehow manages to find it's way back to the giver. The receiver of the rudeness has that smug which says, "Ha! He actually isn't that stone hearted!" but then we refuse to let go of the event because we believe that some people deserve "A Swift kick in the butt"


And then we wonder





And then we realize we couldn't ask for anything better. Because deep inside each of our hearts, we know whether we like it or not, "We have to, are going to be and forever will be there for each other!"



Because they are those people we've known forever, who know us in a way that other people don't, because they have seen you change and most importantly let you change!